How to make someone fall in love with you according to science

By Marni Dixit April 4, 2016
When Harry Met Sally

Got your eye on a special someone and looking to make them fall under your love spell?  Well, fortunately for those of us who are unlucky in love, there's been a lot of research into how to get someone to fall in love with you, and science says they ACTUALLY work!

Here's five surefire ways to get that special someone to see you in that way...

1. Actually listen to them

Cousin Skeeter in love

The University of Nevada and the University of Washington have both done studies that show listening is a HUGE part of getting someone to fall for you. 

Most of us love talking about ourselves and it certainly helps if we think the other person is actually listening and genuinely interested in what we have to say.

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Make sure to ask lots of questions and respond compassionately - this'll ensure they have more of an interest in you, not only that you'll learn SO much about them!

2. Mimic them

Cat copying man

Ok, it sounds seriously childish, but it works WONDERS! According to the Journal of Nonhuman Behaviour, we like people who act similarly to us - BUT you have to get the timing right.

If the object of your affections decides to stand up and stretch, you should wait a moment and then do the same. If they scratch their nose during conversation, you scratch yours a few moments later.

The study also found that mimicking moves of another person indicated your interest in them.

3. Share something personal with them

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Telling someone a secret "implies trust and a willingness to strike up a relationship," according to Social Psychology Quarterly, however, if you hide or withhold secrets, just the opposite will happen. 

That's not to say you should gossip about other people, just share something personal about yourself - the more you share, the closer that person is likely to feel to you.

4. Keep physically close

Standing next to you makes me nervous

Staying physically close to someone increases the chances they'll like you according to the American Journal of Sociology.

So, next time your with that special someone, make sure to stand near them as often as possible - not in a creepy way of course, just being in the same room could do wonders!

5. Tell them how you feel!

Parks and Recreation I love you

Yes, it's the riskiest thing you can do, but in reality, what's the worst thing that could happen?! If they don't feel the same way it's better you know sooner rather than later, and if they feel the same, then that's the BEST feeling ever!

In a study done in 1986, participants were partnered up and privately told their partner either did or did not like them. When asked later on how they felt about their partner, those who had been told they were liked always rated them higher than those who were told their partner did not like them.

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Ultimately people act more positively if they think the other person likes them. 

So there you have it, you don't actually need a magic potion to make someone fall for you, you totally have all the power you need. Now go get 'em!

Skunks in love

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