Dating

4 types of guys to be wary of when dating

By Kara Byers April 14, 2016
Some guys spell trouble when it comes to the dating game

There are certain guys who simply spell trouble when it comes to the dating game.

While many men may seem ideal after just a few weeks of dating (hands up who's been guilty of mentally planning weddings, children and how you’ll split your time between your city and holiday homes?) upon closer inspection, there can be warning signs that you should proceed with caution when it comes to this person. 

It’s not that a relationship with any of these guys is impossible. It’s just that with these ‘types’ it’s best to proceed with caution and don’t overly invest until you know for sure that the relationship is the real deal.

1. The one who wants to get too close too soon

Got an over eager guy? This could mean a few things. Either he wants to get you into bed and he comes on as being overly into you to speed up the process (think  

extremely affectionate and telling you regularly that he’s never felt as strongly for anyone as he does for you). Or it could be that he isn't over his last girlfriend - most likely if he's started acting like a boyfriend after only a few dates.

The stage five clinger

What to do:

Relationship expert Sabrina Alexis advises,

“It's up to you to put the brakes on the relationship. Try to keep the mushy conversations light and don’t see him more than three times a week.

“You'll know if you're dealing with a guy with issues if he doesn't respect your decision not to hang out all the time. The most important thing to remember with this kind of guy is to have firm boundaries.” 

2. The one who says he doesn’t want a relationship

Translation: it’s not that he doesn’t want a relationship, it’s that he can't see himself being in a relationship with YOU. Sorry.

Bye bye mate

What to do:

“Walk away. Tell him something like: ‘Look, I'm not into doing the casual, undefined thing. It was great getting to know you, though.’ 

“Don't be bitter about it; just be cool, confident, and honest. If he truly likes and respects you, he won't let you go. It's as simple as that. Self-respect is the biggest man-attractor. Hold your own and don't be afraid to walk away when you don't get what you want”

3. The one who’s a tortured artist / hipster

He's most likely to go from hot to cold with no warning and often no reason. He’ll put yuou on a pedestal and make you feel like the most spectacular being to ever walk the earth (because at first, he may very well feel this way). However, no-one can live up to such expectations and you will eventually show yourself to be the human being you are and he’ll vanish.

Show too much interest and he'll be scared away, show not enough interest and he'll be too afraid to make any moves, show just the right amount of interest and he'll get bored. Bore off mate.

Hipster boyfriends don't win

What to do:  

“If you find yourself involved with a starving artist type, keep it casual, have fun, and don't take it too seriously. If it's meant to be, it'll find a way to beat the odds and work. (A great dating strategy overall actually).”

4. The one who’s never been single

There’s no better place to hide from yourself than in a relationship. If your guy has jumped from one relationship to the next without ever taking a break inbetween then it’s likely he has deeply buried and unresolved issues. Jump into something with him and you could well end up playing the role of therapist. Not sexy.

Steer clear of the serial monogamist

What to do:

“Try to take it slow. Give him space to work through whatever residual feelings he still has for his ex (and the many before her). 

“It can feel scary letting go of a guy who you see potential with, but if he really likes you and if there's really something here, he'll come back. They always do."