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No one can get over this story of a guy proposing during his best friends' wedding

By Marni Dixit June 5, 2017
Wedding

This is just SO wrong...

Picture this. You're getting married, you're at the altar, everyone you love is seated watching on, and then one of your best friends, who happens to be officiating the wedding, stops the ceremony so he can PROPOSE to his own girlfriend! 

Yep, this is something that actually happened at a wedding recently. Someone has written into Slate's 'Dear Prudence' column to share what happened after 'John' proposed:

“I couldn’t even hear the vows my husband wrote or the rest of the ceremony over the noise of Jane’s happy sobs, her very surprised family who were also guests, and people seated nearby congratulating her,” the bride wrote to Dear Prudence. “Even the videographer cut to her frequently during the ceremony, and you can’t hear anything over the chatter. When John gave his toast, he apologized for being caught up in the moment, and then proceeded to talk about he and Jane’s future with nary a mention of us.”

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She went on to write:

"John even went out of his way to ask the band for a special dance for just him and Jane on the dance floor. I’ve never been an attention hog, and I wouldn’t even have minded if he’d proposed after the ceremony, but weeks later I am still seething. I am so shocked and angry that I keep asking myself if this is real life. My husband hasn’t spoken to John since the wedding, and our mutual friends think what he did was rude but that my husband should just get over it."

Social media soon lit up with reactions:

Here's what Prudence had to say:

"I think it merits a fight! In between 'getting over it' and 'never speaking to John again' is the happy medium of 'having a difficult conversation with a longtime friend who did something selfish and self-absorbed on your wedding day.' He’s your husband’s best friend, so your husband should tell John just how upset his behavior during your wedding made him.

"Maybe John will apologize and the two of them can have a meaningful reconciliation and build a better friendship as a result. Maybe John will double down and dismiss your husband’s feelings, and things will naturally fall apart between them. Whatever the outcome, there is definitely at least one step in between 'seething silently' and 'cutting John loose forever,' especially since the two of them have been best friends for a long time."

Time would probably help in fixing this, but John really should have thought twice about choosing his best friends' special day to propose to his own girlfriend!