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There are 20 questions you should ask your partner before you get married

By Stephanie Nuzzo May 18, 2018
Meghan Markle Prince Harry Samir Hussein/Samir Hussein/WireImage

Wonder how many of these Meghan and Harry have chatted about?

So you found your special person – your lobster, if you will – and you’ve decided to commit to one another for the rest of your loved-up lives. Yay! 

There have been many wise words spoken about marriage and how to keep your union a happy one over the years... Most recently, however, knower of all things and real life Demi-God, Oprah has given her thoughts on making a marriage work – so this is obviously the advice you need to pay attention to.

The talk-show host shared a list of 20 questions that when answered should give you a good indication of whether or not an engaged couple (yes, this includes Prince Harry and Meghan Markle) is set for a lifetime of happiness. 

Check 'em out below and let us know if you agree:

1. What percentage of our income are we prepared to spend to purchase and maintain our home on a monthly or annual basis? 

2. Who is responsible for keeping our house and yard cared for and organised? Are we different in our needs for cleanliness and organisation? 

3. How much money do we earn together? Now? In one year? In five years? Ten? Who is responsible for which portion? Now? In one year? Five? Ten? 

4. What is our ultimate financial goal regarding annual income, and when do we anticipate achieving it? By what means, and through what efforts? 

5. What are our categories of expense (rent, clothing, insurance, travel)? How much do we spend monthly, annually, in each category? How much do we want to be able to spend? 

6. How much time will each of us spend at work, and during what hours? Do we begin work early? Will we prefer to work into the evening? 

7. If one of us doesn't want to work, under what circumstances, if any, would that be okay? 

8. How ambitious are you? Are we comfortable with the other's level of ambition? 

9. Am I comfortable giving and receiving love sexually? In sex, does my partner feel my love for him or her? 

10. Are we satisfied with the frequency of our lovemaking? How do we cope when our desire levels are unmatched? A little? A lot? For a night? A week? A month? A year? More? 

11. Do we eat meals together? Which ones? Who is responsible for the food shopping? Who prepares the meals? Who cleans up afterward? 

12. Is each of us happy with the other's approach to health? Does one have habits or tendencies that concern the other (e.g., smoking, excessive dieting, poor diet)? 

13. What place does the other's family play in our family life? How often do we visit or socialise together? If we have out-of-town relatives, will we ask them to visit us for extended periods? How often? 

14. If we have children, what kind of relationship do we hope our parents will have with their grandchildren? How much time will they spend together? 

15. Will we have children? If so, when? How many? How important is having children to each of us? 

16. How will having a child change the way we live now? Will we want to take time off from work, or work a reduced schedule? For how long? Will we need to rethink who is responsible for housekeeping? 

17. Are we satisfied with the quality and quantity of friends we currently have? Would we like to be more involved socially? Are we overwhelmed socially and need to cut back on such commitments? 

18. What are my partner's needs for cultivating or maintaining friendships outside our relationship? Is it easy for me to support those needs, or do they bother me in any way? 

19. Do we share a religion? Do we belong to a church, synagogue, mosque or temple? More than one? If not, would our relationship benefit from such an affiliation? 

20. Does one of us have an individual spiritual practice? Is the practice and the time devoted to it acceptable to the other? Does each partner understand and respect the other's choices? 

So, if you want to know what life with your future wife/husband is going to look like, this is the one task (according to Oprah) that is set to give you the best indication. 

Good luck!

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